THIS SH*T IS SCARY, DON’T UNDERESTIMATE HOW THIS IS MAKING YOU FEEL! These are very intense and unbelievable times that we’ve never experience in our lifetime. It’s a challenge to know how to feel or what to do or how to cope. Here are some ways we can uplift our spirits regardless of being stuck inside.
RESPECT YOUR EMOTION AND FEEL WHAT YOU FEEL
Being in the midst of quarantine is an enormous unknown for us. There are no “shoulds” in quarantine except to stay home. Parents are looking for ways to keep their children feeling safe, mates trying to comfort one another and not kill each other, singles doing all they can to not feel so alone and children in varying degrees of bewilderment.
Please be good to yourself. Sleep in without guilt, wear your silliest pajamas. Reach out to your friends and family on the phone and my personal favorite – see one another on Zoom. Talk about more than just the pandemic, make one another laugh. If you need to cry, cry. If you feel angry and lost don’t beat yourself up. There are people around the globe, I repeat AROUND THE GLOBE feeling the same things, there is no shame in it.
“WHEN IN HELL, DON’T STOP TO TAKE PICTURES” This is one of my favorite quotes from Clinical Hypnotherapist Juanita Beth Morgan. This pandemic is scary, really scary but we have to keep moving forward and stay in the present as much as possible. I’m a freelancer in entertainment so this way of life I’ve done a lot (minus the devastating virus) and the only way to find your calm is to know we are getting through this. Try not to hold on to how hard the day was or if tomorrow will get worse, every day brings with it a new start. Trust me, this isn’t sunshine I’m blowing up your butt – it works.
“TAKE THINGS AN HOUR AT A TIME, A STEP AT A TIME” Amankeda Triplejewel, Urban Medicine Woman is a shaman who teaches her students to find empowerment by not overwhelming themselves. Do what you can, as you can and be realistic. There is only so much that can be done under the circumstances. Remember, we’ve never experienced this before in our lifetime.
BE INFORMED NOT FREAKED OUT, MINIMIZE THE NEWS.
Monitor the things you’re watching and listening to on a daily basis. Listening to crisis, death, misfortune and financial chaos is not helping you. Yes, there is a lot to think about, to worry about for sure, but soaking in that energy will keep inspiring sleepless nights and a sad heart.
BE FLEXIBE WITH YOUR DAY BUT SCHEDULE YOUR SHUT DOWN
This is so important when you’re dealing with any type of isolation. Create a schedule for yourself and your family to shut it down. If you’re working remotely it’s necessary for your peace of mind to shut things down and move away from the laptop/desktop. Any of us who have home based businesses will tell you it gets really easy to keep working and lose time. We’re already stressed, pushing yourself AND being stuck inside is a very bad recipe.
Whether you live in a house or a studio apartment, put things away and sit somewhere else and begin your evening. If you’re a night owl like me, force yourself off the sofa and at least get in the bed before you start nodding off like a big kid. It will keep you from waking yourself up when you get in the bed to sleep.
CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE, BE MORE LIKE A CAT
Celebrity Life Coach, Andrea Quinn instructs students during her weekend workshops to change seating during each break. It gives everyone a fresh and new perspective to move around and this is especially true when your scenery isn’t changing. Even in one room you can sit and work in different areas and get things done.
I’ve been observing my kitties and how they navigate my apartment. They run like maniacs, have a snack, lay in the sun, play, bother me while I’m working and take a nap. By the end of day, they’ve lived in every area of my space and they’re not under quarantine they’re just living.
FIND YOUR HUMOR, PASS IT ALONG, OR CREATE SOME.
This is another way of saying make some lemonade with the lemons. My friends have been sending me the funniest memes and videos I’ve ever seen and I happily pass along the same to them. That moment when we can laugh in the midst of fear and sadness is very empowering. Laughter is healing and it’s infectious and nothing is stopping you from creating your own. Creativity is the great healer and it makes you feel good when you can heal someone else with it.
Rent funny movies and talk to the funny people in your life – a lot. Keep your spirits up however you can.
YOU DON’T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT FOMO ANYMORE – NOBODY IS DOING ANYTHING.
Use social media to reach out to your friends you always see and the ones you keep saying you’ll get together with and never do. Now is the time to post everything and anything that can help people, support non-profits, inspire hope and give a giggle.
PLAY LIKE A KID
Build a fort in the living room, play a board game, do a DIY project. There are companies that have free printable pages for coloring. Crayola.com has coloring pages for your kids and Supercoloring.com has meditation Mandalas for the grownups.
BELIEVE IN SOMETHING BIGGER THAN ALL OF THIS, WHATEVER THAT MAY BE FOR YOU.
Meditate, meditate, meditate and/or pray. Calm your heart by slowing down your breath, calm your mind by allowing yourself to see beyond the fears of the day. Reverend Dr. Michael Beckwith of the Agape International Spiritual Center talks about taking a “Mind-Fast” from the worry and stress and suspending your fears as much as you can.
Try this: Put a 17 second timer on your phone or watch, close your eyes take a deep breath and think about the happiest thing you can and keep doing it until the alarm goes off. Keep increasing the time and see how long you can get to in one sitting.
Self-care, committing to being there for our loved ones and ourselves is what we can do right now. One step at a time.