I discovered this tutorial today and it was so fascinating I had to share. I think they’re beautiful but I’ve never worn corsets before, I usually wear a basic black bustier for special events. It’s actually a very good how-to. Enjoy
Corset featured: Miss Martha Leather Geometric Underbust
“We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.” – Marianne Williamson
During the first hours of 2013 I wrote a set of intentions, but this year I wrote the most important one of all – to love ME.
What is the day you’ve planned to start loving YOU? We schedule our lives to the minute, texting, emailing, driving frantically in traffic to get from here to there and keep our lives on track. It’s so easy to lose sight of who we are in the world not whom we’ve become for others.
As a woman with curves living in a size zero city, it dawned on me that I was unconsciously living as if skinny was superior to my curves – that I had only a “personality”. Thankfully there is a curvy revolution rapidly growing with gorgeous, confident and beautiful women refusing to be ignored.
Believe me, I’m not suggesting you’ll wake up in the morning “all better” with no memory of the insecurities that plagued you. I only ask that you be willing to open your heart to be inspired to love all of you – right now as you are.
We all have things we’d like to change, even my skinny girlfriends voice their complaints. I’ve chosen to stop allowing myself to keep from appreciating what I have by surrounding myself with others who appreciate me.
Don’t wait until you lose weight before you really look in the mirror. You’re alive in this day right now and we’re not promised tomorrow. Take time to see all the curvy beauties that are the majority of this world. It’s not about us versus the skinny girls – it’s about celebrating being a curvy girl.
10. MAKE A PLAN TO LAUGH AS OFTEN AS YOU CAN. My friends know I love to laugh more than anything. I surround myself with people who are funny and it makes my life challenges a lot easier to overcome. There have been plenty of devastating reasons for our nation to be at mourning, take the time to bring laughter in your life.
9. GO SHOPPING ON YOUR OWN AT LEAST ONCE. You’ll be surprised how freeing it can be to take your time to try on things and not care what anyone thinks or feel bad when your size is in another department.
8. BE OPEN TO NEW WAYS OF SHOPPING. Mainstream fashion treats curvy girls as an after-thought. I actually found a gorgeous LBD online in Target maternity – yes, maternity and unless I told someone they would never, ever know.
7. MAKE AN EFFORT TOWARDS BEING HEALTHIER. I gained a lot of weight this year and my best friend told me to stop beating myself up to lose weight for vanity – switch that intention to becoming healthy and fit.
6. TAKE NOTICE OF ALL THE CURVY GODDESSES AROUND THE WORLD. Whether it’s CurvySwagger, Vogue Italia or Pinterest, there are sites with pictures of stunning, confident, amazing curvy ladies that look like YOU. The Curvy revolution is here and it will send your confidence soaring to be a part of it.
5. SAY GOODBYE TO THE “MEAN GIRLS”. Life really is much too short to not surround yourself with people who love you as you are. Distance yourself from anyone who has the need to be abusive in any form.
4. SILENCE YOUR INNER MEAN GIRL. If people said to us what we say to ourselves, we’d be furious with them. If you need help to heal your self-esteem don’t hesitate to reach out. This is your life and self-empowerment is the most important gift you can receive.
3. NEVER ACCEPT A NEGATIVE COMMENT AS “OKAY”. Accept your beauty whatever your size and KNOW that there’s nothing wrong with you. Example: “You have such a pretty face, it’s a shame you’re overweight”.
2. TAKE LIFE ONE DAY AT A TIME. Seriously, it’s the only way to live life fully. Enjoy the amazing day with each and every moment and don’t fear that the bad day will never end. It’s difficult to do, but if you try it will make life a lot easier.
1. BE GOOD TO YOURSELF EVERYDAY. No matter how busy you are or how many people you take care of, make it a priority to take care of YOU! My mentor Amankeda always tells me “we inform people how to treat us”. When you care about your well being, others will be less likely to take you for granted and neither will you.